Hello friends, can you tell me what’s the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word ‘peace’ – for me, the word peace itself is so peaceful. Whenever this word comes to my mind… I smile, and I start feeling good. I think I’ve learned to be at peace, to stay calm in any situation, and I’m here to share it with you. So you can also be at peace and can enjoy the peace.
What is peace
Peace is not a thing to search for. You will never find peace unless you stop searching for it. Because it’s within you, yeah it’s within you, and you even don’t know it. It can only be felt, felt from the bottom of your heart. To achieve this peace of mind you don’t need to leave your home, your desires and go on a mountain for that. No, not at all. It comes from how you respond to other things. Watch this video – Peace is
If there is a thing which makes you angry or sad, how you react or respond to that thing gives you a feeling of peace. There is a far difference between reacting and responding. The reaction makes you angry, disturbed, upset and on another side, the responding makes you understanding, calm, and peaceful. Always choose to respond instead of reacting. I think for everyone the definition of peace is different, but the point is the same. It can only be felt. Another point difference I am here to clear is between expectations and assumptions. Expectations and assumptions are both different. I have often heard people saying that their expectations hurt them. I agree, it has also happened to me but what they are calling expectations are actually assumptions. They are assuming something which is different from reality. And in the end, they hurt themselves, their thoughts hurt them because they don’t have any connection with reality. For example, Leo and Kate are best friends. Leo is trying to call her and text her. But she is not picking up his call and not replying to his texts. After this Leo starts assuming that she must be so busy, or she is trying to avoid him, she doesn’t want to talk with him anymore… but in reality, She may be having some personal issues or family problems. And therefore she is stressed. But after this Leo decides to not to talk with her, and with time they become strangers again… yeah it happens. This is how assumptions can ruin smooth going relations. So better to have a clear crystal conversation so it can avoid useless assumptions. Never keep any doubt, misunderstood words and sentences in your mind because once you’ll start assuming that one misunderstood sentence will change into a negative mental movie and you’ll experience that in reality. And these assumptions will hurt your peace.
Let’s talk about expectations, I think having expectations is good. Expectations give hope, hope gives you confidence and courage. So, it’s good, the problem is people set way high expectations. By this what I mean is, you’re doing so little or nothing and expecting so much in return. Then your expectations are sure to be failed. But if you’re doing everything you should do and still not getting the results then don’t blame yourself because maybe the thing you want right now is not supposed to happen right now. For example, You want someone in your life, you love them a lot, and you’re doing your best to convince them but still failing miserably then it’s not your fault. At such a time, say to yourself I trust in the time, trust in the universe. This happens when you have other important things to focus, but you’re neglecting them. So believe me, focus on the things which are really important and by the time everything will be right. I am not at all telling you to quit or give up, that is why I gave an example like this. If you’re having problems in business then you should try something different- change your plans, strategies but not your goal. Your business your future is in your hands. And these are the things which you can control, but other person’s emotions and feelings you cannot control so leave it and be worry-free. Time to be peaceful again.
Did I say worry-free? Oh, worry hurts your peace right? Nowadays I am reading a book, “How to stop worrying and start living” by Dale Carnegie and It’s great. If you want to achieve peace, then you must stop worrying. Worrying is not at all solution for anything, it gives you nothing except stress. In this book, there is a magic formula, for quick worry solution and I am going to share it with you.
The formula is:
1) Think what worst can happen.
2) Mentally accept it.
3) Think, how you can improve the worst.
Let’s discuss in details. If you’re going through bad circumstances then stop worrying and blaming yourself, because this is not going to give you anything. Instead of this, ask yourself, what worst can happen to you, think about it, analyze it and then mentally accept it. Now you will be totally worry-free, and you’ll get back your ability to think because till now you were just worrying not thinking. Now think about how you can improve that worst, and do everything that it needs to be done. That’s it! You’re done. The doors of peace are now opened for you.
Let’s see a real-life example, Earl P. Haney was so ill that his doctors told him not to even lift his hand. He was in the hospital for months, and finally, he said to himself, ‘If I have nothing to look forward to except a lingering death, I might as well make the most of the little time I have left.’ He always wanted to travel around the world, so he decided and told his physicians, and went on to the journey. While he was traveling around the world, he ate all kinds of foods even those which were guaranteed to kill him. He played games on the ship, sang songs, made new friends, stayed up half the night, he did all those things which make him happy. When he got back to America, he had gained ninety pounds and he had almost forgotten he ever had a stomach ulcer. what he did was, first he asked himself, ‘What is the worst that could possibly happen?’ The answer was death. Second, He prepared himself to accept death.’ Third, ‘He tried to improve the situation by getting the utmost enjoyment out of life for the short time he had.’
This is a real magic formula for worry solution don’t forget to avail of it.
Let it go!
I would like to begin with this story.
One day the Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?”
’50gms!’….. ’100gms!’ …..’125 gms’ …the students answered.
“I really don’t know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is:
What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?”
‘Nothing’ …..the students said.
‘Ok, what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?’ the professor asked.
‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student
“You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”
“Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to the hospital for sure!” ….. Ventured another student & all the students laughed
“Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” Asked the professor.
‘No’…. Was the answer.
“Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?”
The students were puzzled.
“What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again.
“Put the glass down!” said one of the students
“Exactly!” said the professor.
Life’s problems are something like this.
Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache.
Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.
It’s important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to ‘PUT THEM DOWN’ at the end of every day before you go to sleep…
That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh & strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!
Via: A glass of water
As I earlier said that the things you cannot control, you shouldn’t waste your time thinking about them. Other person emotions, thoughts are not in your control, you cannot change them and make them as you want. You should be good, lovable and kind to the other person, and the rest is up to them. If they care, love, and think about you, they’ll show. You shouldn’t hold on anything that makes you anxious, jealous, angry or depresses. Holding on such a thing in your mind for a long time is gonna’ destroy your ability to think. You should let go all such things, even if it’s your love, your best friend, family members, or anyone. If it often makes you sad, let it go. See, letting go does not mean giving up. Letting go means being free from unnecessary thoughts. You’re letting those things go which are not in your hands, which often makes you sad, even when you deserve to be at peace, but such things don’t let you.
The Way To Peace
Remember what Ralph Waldo Emerson said, A man is what he thinks about all day long. And what Napoleon Hill said, Think good and good will follow, think evil and evil will follow. This is so true, right? In the world we are living is made by our thoughts. Our thoughts are our reality. It is necessary to feed our mind with good, positive and inspirational thoughts.
“What we want outside should be first sowed inside.” The results you want in the outside world should be first convinced inside in your mind. If you want peace then, your mind should be filled with peaceful thoughts. It shouldn’t have a place for anger, jealousy, envy – anything which may hurt your peace. And there you are.
How I enjoy peace
For me, meditation is the best way to feel the peace of mind. And to meditate, I go up on the terrace, take off my t-shirt, and sit with closing my eyes, and start breath counting. After that, I start praying. I pray for myself, family, friends, and for everyone. I pray for the things I have, and I express mine wants to my subconscious mind. While doing this, The flowing wind touches my body, my cheeks, my eyes and I feel I am the luckiest one, peaceful person in this world. And I wish same for others. You can do the same. Try meditation, sitting quietly with closing your eyes, and yes, I would recommend you to do this at a place where you can have wind, the sound of nature, to get the utmost of peaceful experience. Doing meditation at home is not as amazing doing it outside the home. So, go for it.
I hope this blog was worth reading for you. Thank you so much for giving your time to read this. Comment down your opinions. And let me know what do you think about it!